Silence...

So, I'm really bad at fixing interpersonal things. I tend to watch them break, and never do anything other than think about ways to fix it and how much I really want it fixed. I'm a big chicken, and I don't fix things. Sad, isn't it? I've allowed some really good friendships to go cold because I'm too much of a chicken to call and say that I miss whoever.

Why is this? Why am I a big chicken? This is an honest question, because I have theories, but no real answer.

Handling the Rude

As a rule, people aren't usually rude to me. I like that, too. However, it's becoming a habit that one of my horse trainers is rude to my horse. This is twice now, within a year, that she's ridden him in a way that I find unacceptable. Too much jabbing, hard kicking, pulling, and yanking. Too much of him throwing his head, bucking, and telling her where to shove it. It doesn't work. He doesn't respond well with being handled that way. Some horses tolerate this. Not him.

So, what do I do? I'm not going to pretend that it's not happening when it upsets me quite a bit to see her train him in that manner. What I really want to know is if it's time to leave and use a new trainer, or ask her why she's being rude to him.